How To Avoid Negative People And Why

As a high status man something you should really know is why to avoid negative people and how.

You as a man have almost probably been educated to be “tough” which is good in situations where you need toughness to cope with difficulties.

On the other hand there are situations where being tough and persistent can really, really harm your interests.

Relationships with negative people are a good example of this: with them the best policy is not toughness, it is retreating.

Why you need to get rid of negative people?

It is because words affect your brain on the longer term.

It is very well known in psychology how rich verbal descriptions affect the brain.

A verbal description of a negative mind status affects through words your brain like a virus: it builds into your mind the same emotions and feelings connected with the negative thinking of the other person.

This is why you need to avoid contact with negative people.

How do you recognize negative people? You can do that by paying attention to their focus and the structure of their speech.

A negative person will have his focus on failure and pain. The content of his thinking will be filled with pain and failure. His/her actions will be directed to achieve pain and failure.

A good and easy way to detect a negative person is to follow how much and how often the negation is present in their speech.

“I do not understand this person”

“I cannot believe this could be true”

“I don´t like this”

Instead of:

“I think I understand the way this person thinks”

“I believe this is for surely true”

“I like very much this”

The focus of a negative person is on what it is not instead of having a focus on what it is or could be better.

When you detect this kind of negative thinking the best thing you can do is to withdraw from the communication with this person.

In a word: leave the person alone. It will not get any better.

Apply this to business relationships, friends and love relationships and you will achieve more energy and happiness in your life!

High Status Man

4 thoughts on “How To Avoid Negative People And Why

  1. socialkenny

    May 25, 2011 at 12:31pm

    Nice article;still tryna digest it though.

  2. sandrospua

    August 24, 2011 at 10:29am

    like screening.
    girls that are too much trouble in the beginning to deal with or seduce, then it wont get any better later….

    NExt

  3. michael

    January 29, 2012 at 10:07pm

    confused about below situation
    met this girl on sat 15th of this month at a salsa club.
    next day texted her a little chatted up briefly on phone. here there during week.we were supposed to meet on the following sat, so instead went out with girlfriend same day later she tells me want to go to a club with a friend of mind and his wife? I said ok. so she texts me back saying she is too tired. so next day sunday she decides to meet me , i meet her in starbucks so right away she wanted to go chinese food in was few doors down, we did that around 90 mins, so during week we text briefly talked phone, so thurs 1-27-12 we set it up to meet so i will pick her up, she said ok, but she changed her mind to just meet at starbucks again,take own car i agreed ,. i said after ok then we take one car she agreed. to take of to get this skin cream we talked about she would pay. we set it up for this saturday 1-29-12 that same day before showing up 12:30pm I said in text see you at 12:30 starbucks when i arrived same thing I said at starbucks now. around 15 mins late she texted me back sorry can’t make it . I said right after on text look , you did you cancelled twice on me, if you did have to work really. you should have told me alot sooner not at the last minute. as we i write this have not heard from her.
    I have feeling not sure that she has type of job where they need her right away and she has to go in, before she told me work is slow. so what is next step? she type of woman who says, are you at home? example tues iam working on movie set as extra. lets say she asks me . are you at home? or what are you doing? should I say, Iam on movie set talking to a hot girl. if it’s true that is.

    need some steps to take.
    also if she wants to meet just go for it or appear to be busy?
    need some help.

  4. High Status Man

    January 30, 2012 at 5:38am

    Hello and thank you for the interesting comment.
    I am not sure about you age anyway: as a Modern Man you are being object of the typical double message modern men are being object of in relationship with females.
    You probably have been educated to believe that you should be democratic and respect equal rights when meeting a woman.
    The main reason for her indecisiveness and her lack of attraction is: you are not leading.
    You say:
    >confused about below situation
    >met this girl on sat 15th of this month at a salsa club.
    What happened at the salsa club? Was she attracted to you? Did you elicit attraction in her? What she did after either indicates that she was not so interested at the beginning or indicates that she lost interest during the process. Basing on your response I would say: she lost interest during the process.

    >next day texted her a little chatted up briefly on >phone. here there during week.we were supposed to >meet on the following sat, so instead went out with >girlfriend same day later she tells me want to go to a >club with a friend of mind and his wife? I said ok.
    Here is the first place where you lost the frame of the Prize. “I said ok” is giving her power about how valuable your time is.. who told her that you will be available another time?

    >so she texts me back saying she is too tired.
    Because you giving decisional power to her about your time turned her off. And as she is not sure of that she will test you more.
    >so next day sunday she decides to meet me , i meet >her in starbucks so right away she wanted to go >chinese food in was few doors down, we did that >around 90 mins,
    You are letting her make all the decisions about what will happen that evening.. if she was not sure that she can lead you now she is and that.. that is a huge turn off for a woman.

    >so during week we text briefly talked phone, so thurs >1-27-12 we set it up to meet so i will pick her up, she >said ok, but she changed her mind to just meet at >starbucks again,take own car i agreed ,.
    Again she is still testing can she lead you.. not good for you and her attraction.
    >i said after ok then we take one car she agreed. to >take of to get this skin cream we talked about she >would pay. we set it up for this saturday 1-29-12 that >same day before showing up 12:30pm I said in text >see you at 12:30 starbucks when i arrived same thing >I said at starbucks now. around 15 mins late she >texted me back sorry can’t make it .
    She is not sure that she can lead you and decided to not give you chances anymore. As a modern woman she cannot say which is the reason for that.
    >I said right after on text look , you did you cancelled >twice on me, if you did have to work really. you >should have told me alot sooner not at the last >minute. as we i write this have not heard from her.
    This came too late. This is the man in you demanding for respect. It will not help because it came too late. She already knows that she can lead you at will. Next time lead from the beginning and you will beging to see great results.

    >I have feeling not sure that she has type of job where >they need her right away and she has to go in, before >she told me work is slow. so what is next step?
    Lead a woman from the beginning.. if you do not do that it will turn her off.
    >she type of woman who says, are you at home? >example tues iam working on movie set as extra. lets >say she asks me . are you at home? or what are you >doing? should I say, Iam on movie set talking to a >hot girl. if it’s true that is.
    If she contacts you decide for a plan for the two of you in your mind and say: “Ok, nice to hear from you. Let´s do this, this and this” If she expresses indecision about the choices change the plan but make a plan anyway! You are the man, You lead.
    If she says she is busy for a week..you say you are busy for a few months.. capisce? You are the Prize.
    >need some steps to take.
    >also if she wants to meet just go for it or appear to be >busy? need some help.
    “She wants” is your problem. Change that into “I want this” and “I am leading people into what I want and even selling it to them so that they feel good about it”

    You will see results then.
    Have a nice day!

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